Choosing Life in the Midst of Pain

This is not to judge, but if you entered into a relationship that led to pregnancy, please don’t make abandonment or betrayal by your partner a reason to take your own life. Pain from heartbreak is real, but suicide is never the answer. It doesn’t erase the problem—it only deepens the wounds, especially for the people left behind. Life has value, even when it feels broken. Ending it is not a solution; it only transfers the burden to others who never asked for it.

Let’s be honest—when two people irresponsibly enter a relationship without considering the consequences, they become part of a growing problem. Many children today are growing up emotionally damaged or neglected not because they did anything wrong, but because the ones who brought them into the world were not ready. A moment of pleasure or emotional escape becomes a lifetime of consequences, often carried by the innocent.

Too often, after the damage is done, the responsibility is passed on to the parents. A “farewell letter” is left behind, full of guilt and blame, as if the grandparents or family were supposed to fix everything. That’s not fair. No one forced you to make that decision. You alone bear that accountability. And while family can support you, they should not be made to suffer for choices they didn’t make.

The tragedy deepens when the child is treated as the cause of the pain. Some parents, overwhelmed by bitterness, emotionally damage their children through harsh words, neglect, or resentment. Home becomes a living hell for a child who never asked to be born into such pain. This is how cycles of trauma are passed on from one generation to the next—when instead, the cycle could have been broken with healing and responsibility.

Saying “You don’t understand, you’re not in my shoes” does not remove accountability. The moment you made the decision to enter a sexual relationship, you began a path that came with responsibility. Pain is not a justification for abandoning your child or yourself. If things are hard, ask for help. Cry out to God. Reach out to people. There is always a way forward, even when it’s not easy.

Life can be incredibly difficult, but that’s exactly why you must choose to live. Your child needs you. You still have purpose. Your worth is not measured by your mistakes but by what you choose to do now. Even broken beginnings can lead to beautiful stories. God has not forgotten you. As it says in Jeremiah 29:11 – "For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” There is still hope. Hold on.

Conclusion

You are not defined by your darkest moment. Healing is possible, and hope is real. The child you carry—or are raising—is not the end of your dreams but a new beginning. Trust in God’s plan, even when it’s hard to see.

Jeremiah 29:11 – "For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”